Our little 2-year-old is driving me crazy. So I did a little research and found a good article called, "The 20 Commandments of Toddler Discipline." It's great advice. I'd just like to add something...consistency. My plan is to write down the rules and the consequences for breaking a rule. So she knows what will happen if she breaks a rule. Obviously Bugs can't read yet, but we haven't been consistent in discipline. If she throws food at the table, she's done with dinner...no questions asked. If she won't clean up her toys, then a toy goes into time out for a week. Anyway, that's my plan. Does anyone have any good strategies or advice?
17 years ago
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Every kid is so different and discipline needs to be different. But for Riley she loves to play with her friends and that is something we take away. If Riley gets sassy with us we put just a little bit of salt in her mouth, I have heard of putting hot sauce or something similar but Riley loves anything hot or spicy just like her dad. Good Luck!
You are such a good and loving mom Kris. You are so smart to initiate this while she is young. You can do this!
I agree with most of the points. However, I don't know that I would put the toy in time out. It wasn't the toy that did something wrong. What is one toy gone when she has a hundred more, kwim? I would put her in time out so that she knows that *she* will lose when she does something wrong. If the toy gets put away for the week, she just goes onto the next one and then she has no real consequence.
I also would not be afraid to raise my voice. They NEED to know who is in charge, if you are sugary sweet all of the time, they don't know when you are being fun or when you have had enough. In the real world, when they do something wrong, they will get a bad grade, yelled at by a boss, fired even. If we don't show them that their behavior has consequences...real life consequences...how can they handle it out there?
I would also only give her choices on things that she can choose. "The red shirt or the pink shirt", "the blue cup or the green cup". Social and behavioral choices are just not appropriate at this age. When you tell her it is time to leave, pick her up and go. She may writhe and pitch a fit, but she will know you mean business and tell her on the way out, "maybe next time you can leave like a big girl instead of mommy carrying you" and eventually she will. It doesn't mean there won't be tears, but she will get it. Also, try warning her. We are leaving in five minutes. Then again at two minutes. You could also purchase a digital timer. My kids may argue with me, but they never argue with a timer. ;)
I have a book that you are more than welcome to borrow. It is called "Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood: From Birth to Age 6." It is my bible.
I love the "love and Logic " books. I swear it's results are amazing. I have 'Love and Logic Early childhod" LOVE IT... I never have to feel guilty when I use the techniques cause they are so 'logical' and make so much sense and bes of all, my kids always to seem to be happier! When Chad and I are consistant and see the reuslts, we always say to eachother "well duh, why didn't we think of this?" Anway.. check it out from the library (theres always a waiting list at our library so I bought mine) But you are right on the consistency thing.. but it's hard sometimes! Anyway... let me know what you ends up working for you!
I wish I had some advice..but we are going through the same things here. I am glad that I read the other comments though, I will have to try & get that book.
I just found your blog from Naomi's. I hope you are doing well. Looks like you added a new addition to your family. He is super cute.
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I love your blog. It really is cute. I love my kids. My little girl is such a good girl most of the time. As simple as it sounds, I started paying closer attention to her diet. No more sugar, exept on B-days and some holidays, wheat bread and pasta instead of white, and I made sure she ate at least every couple of hours. It actually made he behave better and listen more. I still have to send her to time out and take away her princess dresses every now and then, but she doesn't throw fits and she is much more quick to listen. Sounds simple, but it actually worked for us.
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I've got nothing, no advice from me! Good luck!
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Hey, they have an actual "love and logic" course that I took out here. It was about 7 months ago. Anyway, while I was learning the concept and taking the class, Aurora was the best behaved child. It was a complete turn around. I haven't been as consistent since we had Jasmine but I can always tell a huge difference in her behavior when I practice what I learned. I would definetly recomend getting the book! I'm thinking about taking the class again while I'm here and it's free.
Good luck!
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